Working To Save Your Marriage

Hi Friends,
Yep, you read it right. You need to work at making your marriage succeed.
If you are wanting to keep a marriage  afloat and aren’t willing to give up on it then you may need some marital rescue. There are many books about it and lots of advice given from friends and counselors. There are marriage therapists to go to for counseling but most everyone will end up saying the same things and will not give you sound advice to take action on.
The best things that you can do in any marriage rescue is to aim at being honest and accept one another. Doing both of these may be difficult if you aren’t willing to accept the fact that much of the blame in the difficulties of the marriage is shared. Own up to your own flaws and accept that there may be some truth to the complaints that your spouse has of you. If you want the other party in your marriage to change things you must realize there are probably things that you need to change as well. If you want them to keep an open mind about things that you wish for them to work on then you must do the same.
True love will require compromise many times. You must be able to bend your will and give up some things to make the marriage work. If there is going to be a marriage rescue taking place. Both parties need to take a hard look at themselves and see what things they need to give up and work on to be more compatible.
The largest part of any marital rescue is to change your perspective. For many people perception is a reality, but it may be a false reality. Something may seem like the worst situation in the world but then, after a change in perspective, it may not seem all that bad at all. People have a way of blowing things out of proportion. In marriages this is especially true. Quite a bit of marriage counseling deals with this bit of relationship management. Look closely at the situations from different angles. Your spouse/partner may seem like they work too much but could it be worse? Yes, they could be hopelessly unemployed and struggling to find work or, worse yet, a bum. Also ask why certain things are being done instead of jumping to conclusions.
Talk through things and when things are settled, drop them and move on. Much of the problems that marriages face is due to the fact that there is someone in the marriage, or maybe both in the marriage, who hold on to grudges. Don’t let that happen. If there were things that happened in the past that have been dealt with, then let them go. When you do have discussions or arguments don’t bring up the past. Deal with the present. Don’t don’t fight battles more than once.
If you are truly willing to see your marriage rescued, these ideas will help you and the one you love breath new life into your marriage.
Sit down talk it out.  What have you got to lose. The best part of your marriage may be on honest discussion away.  Don’t waste it.
For more help on saving your marriage try these folks.  An excellent starter book is “How To Forgive”  Get It Here
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About Laurence

Hi friends, when I began this blog 2 years ago I was at the end of what turned out to be a 51year marriage. My wife succumbed to cancer on 12/6/11 and life has not been the same since. It was and still is my goal here to promote long term marriages. There are many reasons this is difficult today, but I still believe it is possible and via this blog I will be trying to suggest steps you BOTH can take to save your marriage. Thank you
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