Saving Your Marriage Just Might Save Your Kids Too!

 

Have you ever wondered how the relationship between you and your spouse affects your children?  Chances are high, if your marriage could use a little help, then your children have already noticed.  Are your children suffering becauseyou and your partner refuse to get the marriage help you need and deserve?

Children are able to sense emotions like anger, anxiety, sadness, and frustration.  Depending on your child’s age, they may or may not be able to understand and express these emotions, but children can experience and feel these emotions.  When parents feel stressed about their marriage, the children are affected.

Whether your mate and you get into a screaming match or prefer the silent treatment, your children are aware of the raging emotions in the home.  If you suspect that your marriage is in trouble and needs some help, it probably would be a good idea to look into some options. 

Marriage help is available in many ways.  One way to help your marriage is to get out of the house without the kids for a little while.  Regardless of how hard you and your husband or wife try to avoid a confrontation in front of the kids, it happens.  This is not always horrible.  Children fight among themselves and make up again.  Adults can do the same.  It is advisable to speak privately with your mate about hot topics.

Dress up and go out on the town.  It will be a great help to your marriage to have a date with your honey.  Take the opportunity to discuss privately the issues in your marriage.  Maybe you simply need a sitter on a more regular basis.  Possibly you need marriage help in the form of counseling.  Whatever the situation, you will have time alone to talk about it.

Try to have some fun with each other.  With children, it can be stressful to keep up with the kids, work, and bills.  Help your marriage by remembering how to have fun and laugh.  This can be the best medicine.

If you and your partner decide to seek marriage help in the way of counseling, your children will notice that mommy and daddy are making the time for each other.  They will know that you are working together.  Refusing to seek the marriage help you need will send exactly the opposite message to your children.  The kids will notice that the family isn’t working together.  Teamwork and cooperation go right out of the window. 

Even if your spouse refuses to get help, it can be beneficial for both you and the children, if you try some self-help techniques.  It is always a positive to improve yourself.  If you feel you need counseling, budget tips, a sitter, or a support group, then by all means, locate it.  The benefits you receive will show up in your marriage.  Marriage help can take many forms. 

As you feel better, your spouse will notice the changes.  When mommy and daddy are getting along better, the children will take note.  The entire family situation in the home revolves around the relationships between the members of the family.

If parents refuse the marriage help they need, kids attitudes and behaviors will follow the same negative path.  When parents locate marriage help and benefit from the services, children will take note of the positive changes in the family.  A family does not make a marriage, but a marriage can make a family.

as we journey,

Larry,

http://divorcealternatives-larry.com/

About Laurence

Hi friends, when I began this blog 2 years ago I was at the end of what turned out to be a 51year marriage. My wife succumbed to cancer on 12/6/11 and life has not been the same since. It was and still is my goal here to promote long term marriages. There are many reasons this is difficult today, but I still believe it is possible and via this blog I will be trying to suggest steps you BOTH can take to save your marriage. Thank you
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