If your Marriage is Stale as Dry Bread.
A story came across my desk the other day that I felt I should pass along:
I was raised in a small farming community in NW Illinois.
The big event of the year was the County Fair, along with some of the best sulky (horse) races in the state.
A huge round barn housed the horses. At the top of the barn was a majestic cupola, home to dozens of pigeons.
One hot August summer County Fair night the barn caught on fire, flames shooting from cupola into the dark night sky.
An eerie and sad sight was some of the horses running to their stalls, even tho smoke and fire surrounded their stalls and pigeons flying down into the flames, hoping to roost in the cupola.
Out of fear, and most likely panic, they automatically retreated to their seemingly safe place, although it meant their death.
There is a correlation to many marriages.
If you are fearful of losing your spouse, marriage, lifestyle and perhaps family, you tend to revert to old patterns that get you exactly what you don’t want.
Please know, no one is being critical of you.
Marriage Dynamics and personalities cause us to sometimes make wrong decisions.
This happens to ALL of us.
So many of your words and actions (maybe all of them,) especially in emotional crisis, emerge from life-long patterns designed to cope with your fears.
And when you have words and actions born from your fears, you produce more and more fear – NOT love.
These words and actions bubble to the surface without much forethought or awareness on your part. And your spouse responds with their unconscious words and deeds which they fine tuned to cope with their fear.
So, any attempt you make to heal or build your marriage, if it is accompanied with fear, is doomed to the status quo at best and more fear at worst.
This is hugely important.
An online course is now available that addresses powerfully this issue.
To start, you begin to manage the fear, or at least the external manifestation of that fear.
Once you do, the atmosphere around your marriage softens and new possibilities emerge.
The first Module offers a framework to experience change quickly, oddly enough by frequently doing the opposite of what you think you “must” do.
The more intensive Modules, in essence, help you eradicate the fear and replace it with a love that lasts forever.
I invite you to learn more about the first Module, Quick Marriage Turn Around.”
For more information and to gain access to the “Quick Marriage Turn Around” Module, click here:
P.S. The “Quick Marriage Turn Around” may help you if…
you keep recycling your marital garbage over and over and over
your marriage seems tied to drama or trauma
your marriage is stale as dry bread and sometimes stinks like dead fish