Save Your Marriage Tried and True Advice
You probably think you know everything there is to know about your spouse..and your marriage.
So how does this apply to your marriage?
For starters, your spouse is a person. So the principle should apply to them. And, you are a person, so it will also apply to you.
For example, when someone asks you about yourself, how does it make you feel? Do you feel some degree of pleasure in their taking an interest in you? People want to feel seen, to feel as if they are important and worth getting to know.
Think about your spouse. Have you ever seen them at a party and watched as they talked to a new acquaintance? Their eyes were alight and they were animated as they answered questions when asked about their likes, dislikes and opinions. Or, have you watched your partner discuss one of their hobbies? Their eyes light right up don’t they ?
Here are 2 tips for seeing more of that sparkle…
Tip #1: Ask, Ask, and Ask Some More If you haven’t asked your spouse their opinion on something lately, try it. You can start with a story you heard in the news. Everyone has an opinion about the news, and they like to share it. Hear your partner out. Ask follow-up questions. Listen, with body and soul!
Tip #2: Bring Up What You’ve Recently Learned To show your spouse you have an interest in them, bring up something you’ve recently learned about them. It can be a comment as simple as, “I saw a follow-up on that story we were talking about. The police chief said the same thing you did about that!” This shows that you were paying attention and that you feel their opinion is important.
Do you feel you already know everything there is to know about your spouse? Do you ever ask your spouse questions or for their opinion?