Save Your Marriage Tips


 Save Your Marriage Tried and True Advice

You probably think you know everything there is to know about your spouse..and your marriage.

Which means, you no longer ask any questions.  After all, there’s nothing new to learn, and why rehash what you already know?
If this is how you view your spouse, it could be the death knell for your marriage, for one very significant reason.Old Marriage Advice Stands The Test of Time
It is said that people find other people to be interesting when they express interest in them. Showing interest in others is one of the cornerstones of Dale Carnegie’s philosophy.  He discovered this ages ago… and it stands up to the test of time.  His whole concept of how to win friends was about showing an interest in them. It sounds too easy, doesn’t it?
That may be why so many dismiss it… and never put this very effective wisdom into practice.  Human nature is to prefer talking about one’s self, so it goes against what many may find to be more natural to turn the spotlight outward.

So how does this apply to your marriage?

For starters, your spouse is a person. So the principle should apply to them.  And, you are a person, so it will also apply to you.

For example, when someone asks you about yourself, how does it make you feel?  Do you feel some degree of pleasure in their taking an interest in you? People want to feel seen, to feel as if they are important and worth getting to know.

Think about your spouse.  Have you ever seen them at a party and watched as they talked to a new acquaintance?  Their eyes were alight and they were animated as they answered questions when asked about their likes, dislikes and opinions. Or, have you watched your partner discuss one of their hobbies?   Their eyes light right up don’t they ?

Here are 2 tips for seeing more of that sparkle…

Tip #1: Ask, Ask, and Ask Some More If you haven’t asked your spouse their opinion on something lately, try it.  You can start with a story you heard in the news.  Everyone has an opinion about the news, and they like to share it. Hear your partner out.  Ask follow-up questions.  Listen, with body and soul!

Tip #2: Bring Up What You’ve Recently Learned To show your spouse you have an interest in them, bring up something you’ve recently learned about them.  It can be a comment as simple as, “I saw a follow-up on that story we were talking about.  The police chief said the same thing you did about that!” This shows that you were paying attention and that you feel their opinion is important.

Do you feel you already know everything there is to know about your spouse? Do you ever ask your spouse questions or for their opinion?  

Your marriage can be greatly improved with just a few basic simple questions.

About Laurence

Hi friends, when I began this blog 2 years ago I was at the end of what turned out to be a 51year marriage. My wife succumbed to cancer on 12/6/11 and life has not been the same since. It was and still is my goal here to promote long term marriages. There are many reasons this is difficult today, but I still believe it is possible and via this blog I will be trying to suggest steps you BOTH can take to save your marriage. Thank you
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