I feel I need to remind friends that I write these posts with 53+years of marriage authority. Saving your marriage really does take work and commitment and I believe what holds all of it together is LOVE. No, I don’t mean that emotional high Love. I mean that unconditonal Love that can weather the storms of life.
I am NOT advocating staying in a relationship that is abusive or hurtful. If these issues can not be resolved with outside help then it is probably time for a marriage to dissolve. (I hope I said that right).
If you have already taken the plunge into marriage, there are several ways to avoid the need for marriage help.
Simply keeping an eye out and watching for any potential problems is a terrific way to avoid marriage help in the future. If your plan is to avoid outside help for your marriage, take some advice from a marriage therapist. If that doesn’t work, try some advice from your grandmother who has been happily married for many, many years.
The three C’s are essential in a healthy marriage.
The three C’s are communication, commitment, and compromise.
Excellent communication skills are not only handy on the job. A person who can communicate well with you will make the best mate. Your marriage will need less help through the rough spots if the two of you can talk through your troubles. If communication between you and your spouse isn’t up to par, you may find yourselves seated in a therapist office in the future.
You may have heard not to go to bed angry. This is not an old wives’ tale. Take grandma’s advice. This is a valuable piece of information. Speak to your partner about problems when they happen. Don’t fester about a situation for days or even months before bringing it to light. A therapist that provides marriage help will tell you it is easier to manage problems when they are small rather than allowing them to build up.
Show your commitment to your spouse. Avoid any marriage help by letting your loved one know how much he or she means to you. You do not need to be elaborate in your efforts unless you want to do so.
The simple act of saying “I love you” may be all it takes to let your honey know you care. Thoughtful gestures can brighten the day of your mate. A simple love note on a sticky pad will make all the difference in the world when it comes to your marriage.
This may sound easy and simple, but with the stressful demands of today’s society, it can be hard to remember that letting them know that they are on your mind is important. Not only will such gestures keep you on the good list, they will help you to avoid any marriage help.
Never talk about leaving the marriage over something petty.
Marriage help is needed when issues of trust arise. It can be avoided by not planting a seed of doubt in the mind of your spouse about your commitment to the marriage. If a partner in a marriage suspects their spouse is not committed to the marriage, the two of you will need marriage help right away to resolve such an issue.
Marriage help often appears as a form of intervention when a couple is unable to compromise.
Marriage is give and take. It is not healthy to allow your mate to walk all over you and get what he or she wants all of the time. A balance needs to be reached between partners in a marriage. If each partner feels that they are not giving up all of their needs, dreams, and desires, the relationship will flourish. A marriage gets into trouble and needs help when this balance gets out of whack.
To avoid outside marriage help, simply remember to instill the three C’s in your marriage on a daily basis. With this in mind, avoiding marriage help can become a reality for you and your mate. A source of excellent help that I recommend is….
Best wishes for your successful marriage. Thank GOD He blessed ours.