Post Affair Recovery – Affair Related Images

If you’re the victim of an affair, it’s pretty common to carry around affair-related images in your mind.

Scenarios will pop up and drive you to what can feel like the brink of insanity. It’s exhausting, and most affair victims want to know… how can I escape this excruciating pain?It’s a valid question, and unfortunately, the answer isn’t snapping your fingers and instantly erasing these images.That doesn’t mean that they can’t be erased, though. In this blog, we’ll look at the pain of affair images and what it’s like for the victim, and then lets look at 2 tips to start the erasure process. Please keep reading…

The Nightmare Mental Movie Reel of Affair Images

If you’re being tortured by affair images, you may wonder if a sadist has been allowed into your mind who takes particular joy in crippling you with pictures that there seems to be no escaping.

Your images can cover a wide, nightmarish range, such as:

  1. The paramour seducing your partner.  
  2. Your partner looking at the paramour with hot desire.
  3. Images of the two of them intimately entwined.
  4. The paramour walking off into the sunset with your partner.

And maybe the sadist in your head has really ratcheted up the pain and added even more scenarios and accompanying images.

In a hefty percentage of affair situations, the affair victim never had their actual eyes assaulted with actual images… they didn’t have to suffer the agony of walking in on their partner in the middle of the deed.

So, where do those affair images come from?

It’s actually your own imagination, supplied with a few random details and possibly a picture, creating these images. You can look at this as the one positive in this mess: when it comes to the nightmare mental movie reel playing in your head—you can control the projector.

Here are two tips for playing with that film so you can move toward destroying it altogether:

Tip 1: Start the Projector Rolling on Your Terms

Find a quiet place to sit where you won’t be disturbed. Close your eyes and picture yourself starting the movie of your partner’s affair…

Allow the images to come to you in whatever way the movie and characters develop.

Tip 2: Manipulate the Film

When your images are clear in your mind, start playing with them.  Stretch the movie out on that inner screen until all the characters shrink. Then, stretch the movie vertically and watch them stretch the other way.

Roll the movie backwards. Slow it down and make the voices drag out. Speed it up and turn them into mice sounds. Picture an eraser that comes and blots out parts of the scene you don’t want. Picture a permanent marker inking out anything you don’t want, and drawing in anything you’d like. Maybe an elephant crashing through the scene. Make yourself laugh, if you can.

The point is, this is your inner sanctum, and you control the projector. Each time an image pops up, remind yourself that you can control it, and begin playing with it. Eventually, these images will begin to lose their hold on you.

My best to you in healing from the pain of affair images.

If your partner cheated, how often do affair images crop up?

What do you wish your partner understood about the pain you’re experiencing?

Has anything helped you escape, even for a brief while, these haunting images?


About Laurence

Hi friends, when I began this blog 2 years ago I was at the end of what turned out to be a 51year marriage. My wife succumbed to cancer on 12/6/11 and life has not been the same since. It was and still is my goal here to promote long term marriages. There are many reasons this is difficult today, but I still believe it is possible and via this blog I will be trying to suggest steps you BOTH can take to save your marriage. Thank you
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