Your Marriage – Your Space?

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Do You Need Space In Your Marriage

How much space in a marriage is necessary?

The answer depends a lot on the type of marriage it is, and each person in it. Some people do better when they’re together constantly, and others crave more of their own space in a marriage.

The hard part is finding a happy medium that both people are comfortable with. This is made more difficult when you each have very different ideas about togetherness and space. But as long as you can compromise on the level of space in a marriage that you both need, then you can work through this challenge.

Alone Or Together In Marriage – Talk It Out!

Some people don’t like to be alone. They’re much happier spending all their time with coworkers, friends, family and their spouse. When they’re alone and doing things on their own they feel a little lost and lonely.

Other people cherish their alone time. Without a little solitude every day they feel burdened and have a hard time relaxing. They feel that they always have to be “up” or “on” for other people when they’re around them, and it can be exhausting.

Those are two extremes, of course. There are also a lot of people who fall somewhere in the middle. They love the time they spend with their spouse, but they also want some me-time to balance it out and recharge.

If both of you fall into that happy medium, then defining your space in your marriage should be pretty easy. And if you each fall into the same extreme group, where you both need lots of space or you both dislike being alone, things are made easier, too.

The problems come when one has a very different idea than the other .If you love your solitude and your partner hates being alone, you really need to talk and set some boundaries. Each needs to understand the other’s point of view so you can come up with a compromise that makes you both feel your needs are met.

If you love being alone each day for a while and your partner craves company 24/7, here’s the problem. When you say you need space in your marriage and go off on your own, your partner will feel neglected as if you don’t want to be around because of them.

And if you hate being alone and your partner really wants some me-time, then by hanging around constantly you can start to make your spouse feel smothered. Your spouse might also think that there’s no trust there, and you won’t give him or her private time because you’re afraid of what he or she might do when you’re not around.

You can see how both of these situations could quickly cause problems in your marriage. But if you talk to each other honestly and openly about how you feel, then when you need time your spouse will understand why.

And when he or she hangs around when you’d rather be alone, you recognize that he or she doesn’t need the same kind of space in a marriage that you do.

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About Laurence

Hi friends, when I began this blog 2 years ago I was at the end of what turned out to be a 51year marriage. My wife succumbed to cancer on 12/6/11 and life has not been the same since. It was and still is my goal here to promote long term marriages. There are many reasons this is difficult today, but I still believe it is possible and via this blog I will be trying to suggest steps you BOTH can take to save your marriage. Thank you
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