Hi Friends, marital stress can wreck even a good marriage but it can be resolved. Yes, it can be resolved before the problems grow and lead to stuff like divorce, abuse, adultery.
Getting married is supposed to be one of the happiest days of a person’s life. The truth is that the day itself can be a wonderful experience, but then that happiness has a way of wearing off over time. While statistics vary, the number of marriages that end in divorce is far too high. This doesn’t mean you are doomed to split up just because you said your vows, but it does raise the question “is you marriage in trouble?”
With the modern state of marriage, the chances are good that your marriage is facing some sort of trouble. However, being in trouble is not the same as saying that it is over. The sooner you can identify the warning signs, the better the odds are that you can save your marriage. With that in mind, here some signs of a troubled marriage.
Sign of a Troubled Marriage #1 – Apathy
When you stop caring about what happens to your spouse, or to your marriage, it is a clear sign of trouble. If you have stopped arguing because nothing really matters then that’s not good. That’s not to say that arguments are enjoyable, because they’re not. But at least when you are arguing it shows that you are upset, and you can only be upset when you care. Perhaps the opposite of love is hate, but apathy ranks right up there.
Sign of a Troubled Marriage #2 – Spending Less Time Together
This should come as no surprise, but the less time you spend together, the worse it is for a healthy relationship. to be fair, there are some couples who rarely spend any time with each other, and they say that’s the key to a happy marriage. But that’s not a real marriage, that’s two people trying to avoid getting on one another’s nerves. There’s nothing wrong with having free time and spending time away from each other, but if it gets out of hand, then your marriage may be in trouble.
Sign of a Troubled Marriage #3 – Decrease in Physical Intimacy
There may be any number of reasons for a lack of intimacy. You need to look for a sudden lack of interest and then see what the underlying causes are. This could be a result of a medical condition or stress. On the other hand, it could be a sign of a troubled marriage, but don’t assume until you find out the root of the problem.
Sign of a Troubled Marriage #4 – Communication Breakdown
While this is usually one of the earlier signs, it can be hard to spot. Why? Because you’re not communicating with each other. The reason this can lead to trouble is that it turns small problems into bigger ones. You need to be able to talk about things, and do so in a reasonable and adult manner.
Is your marriage in trouble? By answering the above questions, you will have a better idea of where your relationship stands. The sooner you are aware of these trouble spots, the sooner you can work to fix them.
And, the sooner you get em fixed the sooner you can get back to enjoying marriage as it was supposed to be. Don’t wait another day, begin to resolve those hidden problems instead of ignoring them.
Here is an excerpt from a guide I recommend to getting your marriage back on track.
|I’m Sure You Would Like:
Everyone wants to have that – the fairy tale “and they lived happily ever after” scenario.
Unfortunately, this is one of those times that life does not imitate art. If only that were the case. In real life marriage has:
To the point that you think about either “playing around” or worst find a new spouse and get a divorce. It’s as if happiness in marriage was just a dream.Click Here!
Whoa nelly! Let’s not get ahead of ourselves here. If you’re feeling that right now know this: You’re not alone.
Many happy marriages go through this testing time. You could say this is a test of attrition – this is where the strong marriage survive and the weak ones falter and inevitably fall.
There Is Hope! Your marriage CAN survive this and move on – better and stronger than before.
Hope this helps,