Hi friends, You really do need the freedom to express your true feelings if you expect to save your marriage.
Do you want your man to know how you feel?
Every day I get asked the question… “Why does he shut down when I start talking about how I feel and what I want?”
What really stinks is that we all remember the “good days” when we could say anything without hesitation and we’d talk for hours andhours about everything. But those days feel like a memory…
“Why did he change?”
Or worse…”What did I do wrong?” The answer is nothing. Let meallow Bob Grant, a licensed therapist who specializes in woman’scounseling to explain.
Men have the capacity to feel emotions for shorter periods oftime than women. Put another way, when men feel, they feel intensely, and then they crash.
This even applies to when they feel romantic and anything elsein their life that arouses their passions. Even though I hear women tell me that they understand this point, I have found it is still hard for themto accept when this scenario happens in their relationships.
When a man is very attentive and hyper focused on what you aresaying, I want you to remember this…
…it isn’t going to last.
Even though it feels wonderful to be adored in such acaptivating manner that is often intoxicating, you must remind yourselfnot to expect it to last indefinitely. The good news is that if you knowhow to respond when he does pull away, you will hasten his emotionalawakening to you.
How to Respond When Your Man Pulls Away:
The process looks like this: A man feels intensely about you.Then he cools off (he needs to take an emotional break).
Then he warms up again and feels intensely. Then he cools off.
Continue and repeat.
Here are the things you shouldn’t do. In fact, if you take thefollowing actions, he’ll stay emotionally distant for much longer.
Don’t ask him to explain his feelings.
Don’t tell him how much it hurts you when he doesn’ttalk.
Don’t beg him to…
(Really, don’t ever beg him for anything. You’ll end up drivinghim away). Instead you should do the following.
When he is quiet… sit with him.
Don’t say anything.
When you do this, both of you will find that it becomes just abit tense – uncomfortable.
You want this to happen. Silence is uncomfortable. If you canpractice allowing there to be silence between both of you, you will notice him beginning to ask you questions.
“What’s wrong?” he’ll say.
You should not respond, just smile. At that moment he is curious and now you’ll have him thinking and wondering. Because most women would never consider such a tactic, you’ll stand out in his eyes.
Shortly, he’ll not only start talking, but he’ll find himselffocused on you.
I’ve been reading a lot from Bob Grant. He’s a unique person because as a licensed counselor and well-known author he runs a clinic in Atlanta that specializes in counseling women to connect with their men.
You may even have heard about Bob Grant because he’s highly endorsed by author and host of Focus on the Family, Dr. James Dobson.
There is one program that Bob has written that many of our readers absolutely love.
If you have not read it, I highly suggest you do. It’s focused on one thing…
Helping You Win Back His Heart
The single biggest reason most women fail to connect with their men is because they use strategies that only work on women.
When I first read that I immediately realized all the things I’ve done wrong with my relationship.
Hoping this helps,