Communicate And Save Your Marriage Help

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

Marriage Communication: the 100% Recipe

Communicating effectively as a couple goes beyond the words you and your spouse may verbalize to each other. Verbal communication is what most people think about when they see or hear the word “communication.”

But a vast range of information is given to others you come into contact with—including your spouse—by an often overlooked piece of the communication picture: nonverbal cues. You can express yourself without ever uttering a word—and may not realize the message you are sending.

More obvious examples include how you hold your body, or whether you cross your arms while speaking. Some not-so-obvious examples include:

  • Touch
  • Eye contact/meaningful looks
  • Meaningful actions/help
  • Flirting
  • Sharing space
  • Showing value of others’ needs through deeds

Let’s take a look at the last one listed and apply it to your marriage. How do you and your spouse express this?

Here’s one way you could show value—or lack of value—through deeds. Let’s say tomorrow night, you’re running late after work. There are two ways you can communicate with your spouse:

1) A phone call

2) No phone call

The first is obviously verbal communication. And the second is nonverbal. You may not realize it, but not calling your spouse is sending a message: I don’t care to share information with you so that you won’t wonder and worry about where I am. That said a lot, without having said a thing.  Even if you don’t mean for that to be your message to your spouse, you can see how it may be interpreted as your being uncaring about your spouse’s needs.

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4 Suggestions You Both Can Use To Restore Your Marriage

1) Openness: To better understand how to be open in your relationship with your spouse, think of the opposite of openness as being secretive.

For example, when either of you gets a call on your cell phones, do you automatically step outside of the room or house to take the call? This action has the effect of closing out the other spouse. So, the next time you receive a phone call when you’re with your spouse, try sitting still and taking the call in front of your spouse.

2) Honesty: Practicing honesty in nonverbal communication can include backing up your words with actions. If your spouse has expressed that he or she wants to spend more time together, and you say you will work harder at this, then a way to express the honesty behind your words is by actually following through and doing what you say.

Plan for time during the week in which you just spend time with your spouse, lingering at the dinner table or watching a television program together.

3) Respectfulness: In your daily actions with your spouse, being respectful means you value your spouse and his or her needs. Examples of nonverbal communication that does not communicate respect include: rolling of the eyes when your spouse speaks, groaning or making other sounds that are demeaning, and turning your back to your spouse when he or she is speaking to you.

The next time your spouse is speaking to you, police what your body is doing: do you notice any of your own patterns in terms of how you show respect—or disrespect—for your spouse?

4) Consistency: You can maintain strong nonverbal communication ties with your spouse simply by setting the standard—and then doing those actions over and over again.

For example, you can place your hand over your spouse’s and giving full eye contact when she wants to have a meaningful conversation with you, and this gesture shows that you are in-tune and listening. By practicing this nonverbal cue, your spouse will begin to see a pattern that shows you are fully engaged—and you never had to say, “But I’m listening—do you want me to repeat back everything you said?”

These guidelines should be followed by both the cheater and the victim. Share these with your spouse as you work to survive the affair.

About Laurence

Hi friends, when I began this blog 2 years ago I was at the end of what turned out to be a 51year marriage. My wife succumbed to cancer on 12/6/11 and life has not been the same since. It was and still is my goal here to promote long term marriages. There are many reasons this is difficult today, but I still believe it is possible and via this blog I will be trying to suggest steps you BOTH can take to save your marriage. Thank you
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